Love is (hardly) unconditional
This week I’ve noticed myself getting annoyed with my daughter — I mean, really annoyed. Why?
Because she doesn’t do what I want her to do. She doesn’t talk to people, she barely talks to me. She doesn’t make eye contact. She is moody. She doesn’t hug. She doesn’t say, “I love you,” — except for the one time. She, quite frankly, challenges me.
I keep getting this phrase in my head, “Love is NOT conditional.” Over and over. And, it won’t leave. Right. And as seen in the list above, I’m seriously conditional! But, I so don’t want want to be judgmental or conditional. I hate it. I feel stuck with my awful feelings.
But, today in church, things became clear. The pastor spoke about seeing others through Jesus’ eyes, not our own. We see the outside. Jesus sees the heart.
Suddenly, it clicked. I could apply this to my daughter and get unstuck.
I saw her behavior. The outside. (And got irritated.) Did I notice her inside? Her heart, her fears, her introversion? Well, that’s a no brainer. No, I did not.
I don’t normally blog about my faith but in this case, it’s relevant to how I can better love my innie daughter.
My life hasn’t changed in an instant but my vista is different. Rather than a sky filled with menacing clouds, raining on another turbulent day, I choose to see beautiful shapes, shades of gray, smell of fresh rain, and glimpses of light.
I pray that with my new vision, my eyes can see the beauty in my daughter’s spirit and my love pours forth, unconditional and with abundance. I will love her because of who she is, not what she does. I don’t want poor vision anymore.
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